You guys can you believe it’s already six months since I started T?
I know riiiiight?
Time seems to be flying by.
But here we are a little past the six month mark and even though I still feel like the changes are not very noticeable, Mimi and other people are reminding me that there are indeed changes that are happening. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I know the changes are happening but in the overall sense they are slow going.
I thought it would be kind of fun to do a “hey this is happening” or a “nope, not yet” check in following the “what to expect” time line that the Trans Health Information Program put up on it’s website (also a little plug that if your trans* identified and you need a good information page, THiP is a good place start). Lots of good information happens over there and while it’s a BC Care provincial page it’s a helpful place to get info for care in your area.
The effect will be on the left with notes from THiP on the right then my check in below…
Effect |
Notes |
Increased sex drive |
Usually starts in 1-3 months |
For me this is a yes, but because sex in general is a little wonky for me there are still some major bumps in the road. I mean, I’m definitely thinking about it more…which is more than I was doing so we’re calling this a win in my books for now. I’m hung up on the fact that I may think about sex like a man (whatever that means) but when it’s time to get down and dirty I’m still a biologically born female and that feels strange…
Monthly bleeding stops |
Usually happens within 2 – 6 months You may still be able to get pregnant even when your monthly bleeding stops (note: it is not safe to take testosterone while pregnant) Reversible change, if you stop taking testosterone |
YES!!!!! It just actually happened in month 5 and I couldn’t be more pleased. However, I’m pretty sure I’m still experiencing PMS at about the same time as I would if it were the time of the bleeding.
I know some of this might feel like “Fuck Carver TMI brother…T….M….I” and for that I don’t really feel it necessary to apologize but will say that as uncomfortable as I am talking about it, some of this is really important because we never talk about this stuff. We walk around ashamed and secretive about the changes happening and are too afraid to ask questions because maybe so and so is getting some of the “benefits” before so and so and then it becomes this stage of peacocking over transitions when in the end we’re all just trying to be a better version of ourselves.
The next one may be a TMI for you so just be prepared to be like “OH FOR FUCKS SAKE…”
Bigger clitoris* |
Usually starts in 3-6 months Reaches full size in 1-2 years Size typically ranges from 1-3cm Likely permanent, even if you stop taking testosterone |
I’ll just say yes things are doing what they should be doing and it’s kind of cool.
More facial and body hair |
Usually starts in 3-6 months Maximum effect in 3-5 years Gradual growth of mustache and beard More, thicker and coarser hairs on abdomen, arms, chest, back and legs Likely permanent, even if you stop taking testosterone |
You can see facial hair if your standing next to me…There is a 5 o’clock stubble by the end of the day. It’s not anything to shake a stick at but I do have to shave now at least once a week because it just looks odd having a face full of stubble that isn’t growing into anything substantial. I still don’t hate it, but I reserve the right to hate if it ever becomes something more than what it is right now.
Oily skin and acne |
Usually starts in 1-6 months Maximum effect in 1-2 years More acne. May permanently scar You can take medications to minimize this Not a permanent change if you stop taking testosterone |
No acne but man is my skin oily as fuck! It used to be really dry but no more. Also the blackheads…I know it’s gross (again not apologizing) but I never had them before (well not after HS at least) and now they are abundant. I really liked the way my face felt prior to whiskers and oily skin/black heads so I’m having a hard time not feeling like this is bullshit having to go through puberty at 46 (now 47). It does, however, give me an excuse to buy fancy man soap so I’m really only complaining so I can keep buying FMS (fancy man soap).
Deepened voice |
Usually starts in 3-12 months Maximum effect in 1-2 years While your voice may deepen, other aspects of the way you speak may not sound ‘manlier.’ You can work with a speech language pathologist to achieve this, if desired. Permanent change |
This is by far the most significant change. It’s definitely different and it is definitely deeper. Since it’s only been 6 months I’m assuming it will continue to change but right now I’m very self conscious as it often cracks (especially when I’m laughing or trying to talk loudly) and I’m still getting used to the sound of my own voice. If you’ve ever watched the old Little Rascals television show:
That’s sort of how I think I sound. Some days I’m okay with it. Some days I could go without saying a word because it sounds so different. I still have quite a few “feminine” tendencies when I speak. For example whenever I say “thank you” my voice raises in a (for lack of a better word) subordinate manner. So I’ve been working on a more firm tone as if it were a dad or male teacher saying thank you. Basically I think our voices inflect according to with whom we are having a conversation. Female to Female / Male to Male / Male to Female / Female to Male we change our pitch to convey a message and for me I’ve got the Male to Female part down (I think), now it’s working on the Male to Male intonations…it’s okay if you’re confused or want to refute this last bit of information but it makes sense to me and right now that’s how I’m trying to understand this voice of mine.
Emotional changes |
Your overall emotional state may or may not change; this varies from person to person. You may find that you have access to a narrower range of emotions or feelings. You may find that you become irritable, frustrated or angry more easily. (If you are injecting testosterone every two weeks, your emotional changes may be the result of your fluctuating testosterone level. You may want to talk to your doctor about switching to weekly injections.) |
I’m for sure experiencing a “narrower” range of emotions and since I’m also bring aspergers onto this playing field that means the range of emotions was pretty narrow before I started T. During the 5 weeks of a raised T level (remember it was 37 the last time I had it checked), I was way more irritable but didn’t know it until Dr Z lowered the dosage and put me back in a “normal” range (I had my levels checked this week and down to 25nmol/L). I’m feeling much less irritable and a little more patient (though Mimi might say differently).
So there you go…that’s the six month check in.
In other news I did sit down with Dr. Z today to begin the paper work for Top surgery. Because I’m doing stuff in Canada I have to follow the steps laid out by the Province. BC is much faster about moving people along but it will still be another year or so before I take that gurney journey to a flat chest.
Good news is that the paperwork (fingers crossed) will be submitted barring any hiccup waiting for my MSP (medical service plan) number and in a few months I’ll be getting a call for a consultation.
For now I can just buckle in and enjoy the ride at a steady pace.